Adventures with Dr. Lady Cutie Troublemaker

Life is in flux BIG TIME these days. I want to keep in touch with all of my peeps. The Internet is this beautiful thing. I can move to a brand new city and still stay in easy, near-daily contact with the people I love. When I feel connected to the people in my life that matter, I am unstoppable!

We Are The Light

By Abby at 12:11 pm on Thursday, August 5, 2010


I’ve always loved The Alarm. Declaration was one of my favorite albums for years. I was editing this picture last night and was loving the light in it so much. I was trying to think of a good title, and “We Are The Light” popped into my head, just because I’ve always loved that song so much. Here’s the original:

Following tangents is what I do best, so I headed to YouTube in search of a video of the song and came across the lead singer of The Alarm performing the track earlier this year. It’s wonderful. The audience does most of the singing for him. I started thinking about how I’ve always loved The Alarm, but I never really knew of many other people who did, so I posted the video on Facebook, and sure enough, lots of people piped up to say that they were long-time fans (one of the things I love about Facebook!).

And of course, to fully follow the tangent through, I looked up the chord, got out my guitar, and fumbled through the song myself. Here’s my own clunky version.

It’s a good message, I think: We are the light of our lives.

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Enough Already!

By Abby at 2:29 pm on Saturday, December 20, 2008

Jake and I went to DC at the beginning of this week. I had to come back, but he’s still traveling (Philly first, and now NYC). I’m getting to do a little armchair traveling, too, because of his frequent calls. It’s kind of fun! I go online and find stuff that’s cool to take pictures of and send him little emails and junk. Of course I’d rather be with him, but the good news is that we’re heading down to see my parents in a few days. The trip will extend a few days after Christmas, so the long drive won’t be as dreadful as last year (nothing like food poisoning and car trips, I always say!). Can’t wait to see him and all the pictures he’s bringing back with him.

He just posted the coolest iPhone picture from the Brooklyn Bridge. Imagine what the pictures from his REAL camera will be like! :D

OK, I know his trip is awesome and all, but COME BACK! It’s been long enough already!

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Verizon Navigator for Blackberry Kinda Sucks

By Abby at 3:34 am on Wednesday, November 19, 2008

I’ve been meaning to blog about this for forever, but I just haven’t had the time. I did, however, get around to writing a short letter of complaint to Verizon regarding the version of Verizon Navigator created for Blackberries. It’s godawful, and I don’t see how they can’t know that. Here’s what I said:

I bought a Verizon Blackberry instead of an iPhone because I loved the VZ NAV software I’d used with my LG phone so much. I got the Blackberry and was brought back several builds to Verizon Navigator version 2.9 (having used version 4+ on my old LG phone). Once the NAV software finally DID upgrade a few months after I received my Blackberry, it was TERRIBLE. There’s a 30 second splash screen (hello, I’m LOST!); frequent lack of contact with satellites; when it DOES work, there’s a time lag meaning I miss turns; and no text prediction (I type in “RAL” and even though every place I go is in Raleigh, your software can’t predict the second half of that word in the city field!). Was this build even beta tested? I am extremely disappointed and regret even getting the Blackberry. I loved VZ NAV so much, and you’ve really blown it with this build. I feel like I’ve wasted a lot of time and money on this product, and before, I was preaching the wonders of it to EVERYONE. A product this flawed should never have been released. I’ve now bought an external Garmin GPS for my car and have uninstalled the VZ NAV from my Blackberry. I expect others will do the same if you don’t improve the performance of this product VERY soon. I’m a big Verizon fan, but this was a huge misstep for you.

One thing I noticed when rewatching my video is that I failed to mention that this version I’m demonstrating in the video is actually the latest UPDATE of VZ Navigator. Yes, I had that v. 2.9 before, but I did upgrade a couple of months ago, as soon as that software was available.

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Why the Fuck Don’t You Know How to Fish Like Me?

By Abby at 7:39 pm on Saturday, November 8, 2008

This is a flawed blog post. My head was afire with thoughts, and I had to get them down. Many threads are incomplete, many thoughts not fully articulated, but I feel compelled to put this “out there” in this unedited state.


Over the past few weeks, I’ve heard people express their concern and thoughts about those in this country they feel sponge off the system. The assumption seems to be that these are people who have no internal motivation, that there is something very wrong with them. And that one of the roles of government is to protect “We, the People” from “Them” (as if “they” are not also part of “We, The People”). These people do not want to work. We are superior to Them. (Assume quotes around “We” and “Them” or “They” for the next few sentences.) We work hard. They are lazy and don’t want to work. We are responsible. They aren’t and don’t want to be. We are the ones doing all the work. They are looking for any opportunity to get more without giving anything. The unstated part of this is that “We” usually means White, and “Them” usually means black. This notions more than bothers me. It is at the heart of the division in our country.

We aren’t all born with the same stuff. There’s something called Generational Poverty (a nice summary here with some of the same caveats I have about Ruby Payne’s work; more from NYT) that I have seen with my own eyes, and the effects of this are gargantuan yet invisible, certainly to those of us on the outside, but I think even to those on the inside. I can’t imagine that some motivationless thug you found on a street corner would be able to talk to you about this effect, and certainly the wealthy people driving past as they lock their doors are just as unaware of its existence.

Go into a village. Take all the people you can find. Stack them end to end in ships. Do not allow families to stay together. Take these people from their homeland. Sail them to the other side of the world and enslave them. Do not educate them, nor their children, nor their children’s children. Rape them. Do not give them last names or a right to property. Do not allow them to vote. Take away their religion and “civilize” them with yours. So often, we forget that even the founders of this country were racists. Even Ben Franklin spoke of “scouring the planet of darker hued people”. Even though huge strides have been made, think about how recent Brown vs. Board of Education was – separate is NOT equal. Racism hasn’t left us, but it’s gone underground. It’s gotten subtler. I won’t bother going into evidence of racism in modern culture, but if you think it’s gone, your head is in the sand. And I’d say the most troubling brand of it is the uber-subtle feeling that many sheltered white people have that black people (and also poor people in a more general way) want to take “our” money.

I’ve always been of the mind that you should teach a man to fish, rather than give a man a fish. But what I feel like a lot of sheltered middle class are saying is, “Why the fuck don’t you know how to fish like me?” That answer to that is so complex, more than a blog post worth. But I do ask you to consider whether the reason someone is not able to fish for themselves is that they WANT to be helpless -OR- maybe they have never had anyone teach them. Maybe when they have tried to fish before, they didn’t catch anything. Maybe they saw their mothers and father and grandmothers and grandfathers try to fish, and after years of working hard, they didn’t get any bites. Maybe they don’t fish because they have experienced learned helplessness. Maybe playing by the rules has gotten them nowhere. Maybe they tried to play by the rules, but they rules kept changing.

You don’t know. You have not walked a mile in their shoes.

I want to talk about Ogbu’s work on competence. I want to go back and explain all of that history in more detail with and add citations. I want to show you The Color of Fear and talk with you about it. I want to ask you to consider that maybe some assumptions you’ve made aren’t right. I want you to stop for a minute and consider that maybe these people you’ve imagined to be taking your money are doing the very best they can with what they have been given. I want to tell you about all the people I’ve met living in poverty who work themselves silly and never got anywhere. I want to show you how easy you’ve had it. But this is just a blog post, and I have a lot more to do tonight.

I want you to know that “Yes, We Can” is not just a silly slogan. It represents hope and possibility and so much more. Is teaching people to fish really so bad? Can you unclench your fist for just a second? Not to “share the wealth”, but to listen, to consider that another person may be doing their best, to remain open to new possibilities, to consider that maybe a better world for those struggling the most means a better world for all of us.

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Stream of Consciousness

By Abby at 3:48 pm on Sunday, July 20, 2008

Dad had emergency back surgery, and I keep meaning to blog about that. Since mom had one knee replaced in early April and another in early May, his back surgery wasn’t ideally timed. I went down there for several days to help. Back now and busy. I’m working hard trying to get work for the private practice, but since it’s mid-summer, it’s not really kicking in yet. Got a Blackberry, but I can’t for the life of me work out how to sync my contacts (from GMail, Airset, etc.) with the device. That’s driving me nuts. Jeep has a cold. I was dating an awesome guy, but it wasn’t a great fit so we broke up, but it was like the best breakup ever – no drama, lots of respect. It’s a weird thing to be happy about, but it was mutual and the right thing, and so it goes. I need to contact that woman about the teaching job. Being gone got me off track. I can’t find my sunhat, and I’m going to fry later on the Triangle Film Meetup. I need to get my sleep schedule back to normal. This place is such a mess. What does one do with a perfectly good CD multi-disc player? Everyone else has iPods, too. I don’t have the space for it. I need to shampoo the carpet in here. I wonder if Shannon will have any Zyrtec in her bag. I’m out. I should have left sooner. Which film should I use? I should blog more. Should I join that no-frills gym around the corner? Still, the sunhat thing is the big Dukkha in my life at this exact moment.

Damn Hell Lilly's Bathroom
This old self-portrait seemed about right

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