Adventures with Dr. Lady Cutie Troublemaker

When I arrived home today, I had a condolence card in my mailbox from Maggie’s regular vet. Maggie died on Saturday, June 25th. Earlier that week, she had spent all day Tuesday and Wednesday at her regular vet receiving fluids in an attempt to get her Creatinine and BUN levels back within range. Maggie was such a sweet kitty and pretty vocal when she was annoyed (although never aggressive). When she came in that second day (Wednesday) after a night at home, everyone knew her name. “Hi, Maggie!” So when I opened the card and read it, it didn’t feel trite to me. It felt like they meant it:

On the left was a little poem:

I’m usually not one for mushy sentiments, but this really touched me. As I approached my apartment, tears streaming down my face from the card, I dreaded seeing my bed through the window without Maggie waiting there for me. That was her spot, and one of the hardest parts of losing her has been that approach to the apartment. Sometimes, I actually leave the blinds closed now when I leave, since seeing that empty space really guts me. So imagine my surprise when I walked up today and saw this through my tears:

I’ve experienced so much loss this summer, and it’s reminded me again how much I have to appreciate. I’m not religious, but Jeep is my little angel, and I appreciate her so much. She’s finally feeling better after a pretty rough week, and I couldn’t be more relieved.

The Maggie Memorial Fund has been a big success so far. The final bill at the NC State Veterinary Teaching Hospital was $4,600, and the bill at the regular vet was $600. My plan has been to try and raise about $2,000, then to split up the remainder ($3,600) with my parents. Mom and Dad are very generous people, and Mom has been calling my cats her grandchildren for years! It’s going to take me a while to pay off my part, but it was a risk I took knowingly (with the support of my parents and one caring friend), and one I will never ever regret. Since Maggie’s overall health (other than her kidneys) was so good, successful surgery could have brought her many more good years. There was just no way the vets could have predicted the complication she had, since it was one that had never been seen before.

This little campaign of mine has gone on for 6 days, and I have now raised $1,587! I’m almost at my goal. When I started, there was still hope for Maggie, but obviously, things did not go well. I wouldn’t have expected to raise this much, but it’s happened, and I couldn’t be more grateful. The Flickr strangers are the people who’ve blown me away the most… no, not them… the ex I hadn’t heard from in years who I didn’t even know followed my life at all anymore. Must have heard through the grapevine. Whatever the case, the $10 here, $25 there has made ALL the difference in an doable amount (in the wake of starting my own business) and an insurmountable amount, and I thank you so much!

One last push, since the first of the month is in a few days. Just a few more donations would make all the difference. I usually go over the top with things, but I think that after a full week of doing all I know to make a dent in this, I should spare everyone further blabbing (although I will probably keep talking about my cats for a while… just unsub for a while, and it’ll pass – maybe!). Only $413 more!

I got a call back from the vet today. Since Maggie’s surgery was a fairly new one, I wanted to give her my thoughts. If you listened to the long 12 minute description of what went down during the surgery, you know that there was an unexpected stricture blocking her ureter (the tube between the kidney and the bladder). Had they known about that in advance, they would have known that neither type of surgery (Ureteral Stenting and Ureterotomy) would have been effective. While they would not have been able to save Maggie, they would have been able to avoid the expense, time, and pain/stress (for Maggie, Me, the surgeon, and the vet). Techniques like CT scan or ultrasound are costly, but they could have picked up the presence of the stricture. I’d been thinking about this since Saturday. I figured they would have been talking about that over at the vet school (and they had), but I wanted to be SURE they had. My thought was that maybe strictures are much more common than they think. Maybe they are the reason that Ureterotomies often have the complication of leaking afterwards, because if the blockage is somewhere else other than at the site of the stones, then removing the stones won’t fix the problem. Anyway, I think there are maybe about two people I know who find this interesting, but perhaps these thoughts will be of value to other pet owners and vets who may come across it in the future. Just more to think about.

The vet is calling me back tomorrow morning after her meeting with the nutritionist for the best recommendations of food for Jeep. I’m, of course, interested in the best, state of the art food for prevention of stones of all types for Jeep. As if Jeep weren’t spoiled enough, she’s going to now get the best care I can manage. At some point, I will have to say goodbye to her first, but I want to do all I can to make sure she lives a long happy life – as long and as happy as is possible for a cranky 12-year-old head-case of a feline!

By the way, I couldn’t have been happier with the care I got at the Vet Teaching Hospital. My vet and the student I worked with called me regularly, took the time to explain every part of the procedure to me, and even respected me in the conversation when I said, “OK. Enough. My head is full. No more anatomy for the day!” I’m so lucky to have them down the street. I could tell they liked Maggie (I mean, she’s awesome, so no surprise there!) and that they really felt awful that they were unable to save her. But it wasn’t for lack of trying.

As I share about this stuff, I’m going to keep including the donation link – at least until I hit about $2,000. I think the grand total is about $4,600. I’ll find out for sure tomorrow. They are doing an audit to make sure all the charges are accurate. So far, I’ve raised $1,025. Yes, I have RIDICULOUSLY awesome friends, many of whom are animal lovers.

What a few days. There are a couple of questions everyone keeps asking me, so I’ll answer them here:

• How is Jeep doing? – Jeep is doing great, actually. She has been very stressed with Maggie’s frequent trips to the vet. She’s a weird and anxious kitty. Whenever Maggie returns smelling like the vet, Jeep goes into panic mode, hissing, hiding… It’s not pretty. Now that Maggie is not returning home at all, Jeep seems just fine. She has been affectionate and doesn’t seem to miss Maggie at all. The two of them have always been parallel kitties, sharing living space, but in Jeep’s mind, I think there has always been some competition over resources (food, attention, favorite sleep spots, etc.). While I would like to think that Jeep misses Maggie, the truth is that I don’t think she does. No wailing, walking around the apartment looking for her sister. Jeep’s actually doing just fine.

• Are you going to get another cat? – Actually, I do think this is a pretty good thing to do when a beloved kitty dies. The point of having pets in your life is the joy that they bring. There are so many cats in this world that need a good home, and they bring me so much joy, that I would love to get a kitten in a few weeks, but here’s the thing: Jeep would hate it. She doesn’t like new humans. She doesn’t like new animals either. She’s 12 years old, and I have respect for her and what she needs. A new kitten would be good for the new kitten and good for me, but it would be bad for Jeep. And so I’m not going to do that to her. I will be a one-cat woman until Jeep’s time is up. Then, I will probably wait a few weeks and then get two new kittens. I adore cats, but I won’t get one at the expense of my current cat’s happiness.