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Republicans are Closet Pervs

By Abby at 6:21 am on Wednesday, November 3, 2004

Let’s psychoanalyze the election for shits and giggles. My Dad sent me this e-mail this morning:

This election was lost on religious grounds:

* abortion is bad
* marriage is only for heterosexuals
* stem cell research is evil because it’s messing with sex and babies or something like that

When it’s all said and done, all three have to do with sex. All three “foundational” issues have to do with not messing with sexual things.

Actually, the last election was probably lost on similar grounds:

* Gore was with Clinton
* Clinton was sexual
* ergo, no Gore

So what’s foundational about religion has to do with sex, and now what has become foundational in politics has to do with sex…

Amazing!

Sex is bad, but aggression is good.

Amazing!

I responded:

Republicans are closet pervs.

He responded:

You got it!

Freud, for all of his failings, had his finger on the pulse of the human psyche. It’s a great pleasure for an aging, balding, psychoanalyst to have a daughter who immediately got the point of the missive.

It’s easier to rationalize aggressive, power-driven motives than sexual ones….

Thanks..

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Ride Along Debriefing Part One

By Abby at 1:12 pm on Saturday, October 30, 2004


The Littlest Officer

So how was the ride-along, Abby?

I got to the North Precinct a little before 5pm. At the beginning of the shift is role call. There is a literal role call in a room with school desks. All the officers are chatting and laughing and telling stories. The lieutenant and another guy (a sergeant?) came in and did a literal role call like in a school room. After that, he made a few announcements, then there was a prayer for safety or all the officers on that shift.

Next, there was a presentation about gangs in Memphis. This wasn’t general. It was really specific. The guy who did the presentation knew a LOT about gangs in Memphis. He told us about the origins of each gang and showed us pictures of what each gang member’s symbols were, how to tell one from the other. He showed us mug shots of the leaders of the local gangs and told us where they lived (“Leader X lives in such and such apartments at such and such intersection with his mother.”) What was really interesting was how he knew what each gang considered a “dis.” I don’t remember the specific words, but if you were in doubt about a certain person, you could accuse them of being a “Lilly Mae” or whatever. If they got really riled up, you’d know you had the right gang.

After dismissal, all of the officers wandered around checking out shotguns and cars (they aren’t in the same car every time). The car keys were on hooks on the wall like at a valet. We went out to the parking lot, talking to others as we went. I was with a African-American female officer. She was 41 and really pretty, with full makeup, and on the short side. She and I spend a really long time setting up the car, getting things out of her car, getting all the right paperwork together, putting Skin So Soft all over us to protect ourselves from mosquitos, then she loaded the shotgun and put it in the locked holder inside the car. The car was really dirty, and she had wet wipes that she had us use to clean it up. It wasn’t as tricked out inside as I would have thought. The windows weren’t bullet-proof, and when you got in and out of the car, the doors didn’t lock in any special way. There was a radio but no special computer on board, no GPS devises, nothing like that.

We rode with the windows down so we could hear outside the car more easily. She drove without a seatbelt because she said that it was too hard to get out quickly on a moment’s notice. In the car, the car radio was on, the police radio was on, her individual radio was on, and her phone kept ringing (it had this funny Jamaican steel drum song on it… she’d been to Jamaica a few weeks ago on vacation). It went off all night. Sometimes it was her son, sometimes it was her boyfriend, sometimes friends, sometimes other police officers.

The officers were all very social with one another. Because I was with one of only two women from the precinct on the shift, and because she was so pretty, lots of officers liked talking to her. There was low-level flirting going on all night. That was kind of funny to me. We were supposed to meet several other officers on duty for dinner, but that never happened. We were too busy to get there. Instead of dinner at 7pm, we got dinner at 11pm!

The first call we got was to a “hit and run with no injuries.” When we got there, it was a little different than we’d first thought. A woman in a small car hit the side of an 18-wheeler. It seems either one or the other of them had run the red light, but it was unclear exactly who was at fault. The 18-wheeler had not noticed that he’d been hit because he had a full load and didn’t feel the impact because it was so far at the back of his loaded trailer. A car waved him down a block or two down the road to tell him what had happened, so he pulled over and walked back to the scene. When we got there, his wife and child had met him there. The woman in the car said she was injured. We called an ambulance. No one reported clearly what had happened. Both parties were concerned about being blamed. Both parties got a citation and were going to have to fight it out in traffic court. The woman in the car had a license that had been expired for 6 years and no insurance. We had to go to the emergency room and give her the citation for everything which sucked. The officer I was with was really angry at the woman because she felt the woman had lied to her. It was stressful being there in the emergency room giving this woman the ticket when she really did seem to be injured. I mean, she hit a semi with the front of her car, and the front end was all smashed up. I’m sure she’s going to have back issues as a result.

The other call we went on (there were only two since both took so long) was supposed to be a CIT (Crisis Intervention Team) call. We were told that there was a “violent mental consumer” at a certain address. They don’t call people perpetrators. They call them consumers, which I found bizarre. “Mental patients” or “mental consumers” require that a CIT-trained officer be there, and they usually show up with three cars. We ended up at this call with 6 officers and me. Before we went to the house, we all met in a nearby parking lot. I so wanted to take a picture of this (goofy me). The cars were all pulled up, some facing one way, some facing another. The windows were all lined up, and everyone’s windows were open, so all the officers could talk to each other and figure out how to approach this situation. There was one other CIT-trained officer there besides the one I was riding with. My officer said she was there “for training purposes” (i.e., for me) and was pissed when they expected her to be the lead car because she didn’t have much information about the situation. The other CIT officer kept saying, “I’m not really here,” which didn’t make sense to me or to my officer. So the point is that it wasn’t the most clear call, and no one knew that much. My officer was really annoyed about that. I’ll write more later on. This is plenty to sink your teeth into for now.

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Ride-Along

By Abby at 3:28 pm on Friday, October 29, 2004

I’m on my way out the door for the ride-along. I’ll be with a female CIT-trained cop out of the North Memphis precinct who’s supposed to be excellent. Fingers crossed that there isn’t too much action. Yikes!

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Guess I’ll Blog

By Abby at 6:06 pm on Thursday, October 28, 2004

I haven’t been blogging as much. Life has gotten hella busy. I still don’t have a phone or a computer, but they are now saying I will get a phone. I was scheduled to be in 6 schools during the 2.5-3 days of this week that I’m in the schools. That seemed like too much, so I spoke to my supervisor, and she pulled me out of a few schools. I’m pretty pleased about that. I’m working hard to enforce staying in only three schools each week.

What makes me sad is this: The schools with the most dire need for services are the same schools that are the most disorganized, and where the parents are the least involved. Of course, if parents aren’t involved, and the school is disorganized, it’s hard to get anything going. Parents don’t call back to sign the proper paperwork, so I can’t start providing services. Oftentimes, kids aren’t in school, or the school is referring kids that shouldn’t be getting testing because they’ve recently have testing, but the files are such a mess that noone noticed. Oftentimes among populations in poverty, the family is moving all the time, so I show up, and turns out the kid isn’t even there anymore. The school system has reorganized several times in the last few years, so files are often a mess. The mental health and special ed files are supposed to be merged, but they often are still separated. No telling what you’ll get when you request a file. It’s messy. Still, with all of this frustration, I love the people I’m working with, and I’m amazed how most parents know so much about their kids no matter what the financial situation.

So all that said, I am now focusing on three schools that are not the worst of the worst. These are schools with more kids not in poverty, but there is still financial diversity and there are still a variety of issues going on. I think I’ll like this better, and I’m working hard to get really involved so I’ll be making a difference.

Next week, I have an appointment with a mom and a dad who are divorced and who don’t get along at all. We’re going to talk about how they can make the best decisions for their child without using him as a way to get at each other. I wanted excitement, and this is excitement!

My minor is going really well. I actually love that place because not only are the cases interesting, but I have a phone and a computer I can use, and they have testing materials there. Hooray! It’s a cool placement because I’m like a detective. I gather together all this information and present it to a multidisciplinary team. It’s really fun. The cases are heartbreaking though. Just heartbreaking. But that’s what I signed up for, I guess. I love talking with parents about their kids and helping them make decisions. It’s cool!

One more thing. The other day, I made a list of stuff in my field that I love, so I can figure out where to work next year (and beyond). I called it “What I Want.” Here’s the list:

  • Family Therapy
  • Multiculturalism
  • Consultation with parents and teachers
  • Parent Training (individual and in groups)
  • AD/HD Assessment and Treatment
  • Behavior Disorders
  • Behavior Modification
  • Functional Behavior Assessment
  • Day Treatment Programs
  • Making explicit things that are implicit for most kids: Teaching/Facilitating Social Skills, Organizational Skills, Study Skills (Teaching a kid how to organize a backpack, a skill that is obvious for most kids, but not for some)
  • Career Guidance
  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
  • Problem Solving (and helping facilitate problem solving by adults for kids through consultation)
  • Supervision
  • Working with K-12 Teachers
  • Teaching College
  • Presentations/Inservices (in classrooms, to teachers, at conferences, to anyone working with children)
  • Providing resources to and translating information for marginalized people (In a nutshell, advocacy and providing education so people can advocate for themselves)
  • Anything ecological and relating to systems
  • Community involvement
  • School involvement

OK, I realize this list is overly long, but I thought it would be better to start with EVERYTHING and keep my options broad. Mostly, I want to work in a place where I have the resources I need to get the job done and where I have competent people to work with. Oh, and where we’re actually making a difference.

See, not lots of fun here. Mostly serious stuff and work stuff. Shit, I need to see a movie or something!

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Mom’s Reunion Weekend

By Abby at 8:38 pm on Sunday, October 24, 2004

I’m just exhausted! Mom was here for her 40th college reunion. I spent a good amount of time touring around and seeing places she used to live, where they lived when I was born and when they conceived (Eeeuw! Thanks, Mom!). I stopped by the reunion last night to see a few people I hadn’t seen in a while and ended up getting invited to the whole dinner. One man walked up to me and said, “Well, you’ve aged well!” A very amusing time was had by all!


I actually got mom to the M.A.C. counter! She was here for her 40th college reunion, and the weekend wore me out!


Mom and her college roommate, Nan.


Mom whooping it up with some friends from back in the day. And that’s suede she’s wearing. Go mom!

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